Recently a discussion on dolls, Barbies, Disney Princesses, and more have been floating around amongst friends, bloggers, and has been a hot debate for as long as I can remember. Just today I came across a blog article written by an Austin Tx photographer where she photographed her 5 year old daughter dressed up as 5 different American female heroines, link to the entry if you are interested. The photos were beautiful, well appointed and I 100% get the argument behind doing them, I think it is a wonderful lesson. One that I too learned in 3rd grade, when I was able to truly understand the importance of who these women were to our American history and how without them we would not be where we are today.
However, I am having a very hard time seeing how letting a little girl play pretend with barbies or dressing up as a princess will ultimately hurt her in the long run. Read More »
My kid is pretty cool. She rocks out to Ke$ha, Rolling Stones, and The Wiggles. She makes cute little snorty faces when she thinks she is doing something that makes me laugh (which she usually is!), she hates wearing shoes but likes to walk around in them all day long. (doesnt make sense now does it?), her best friend in this world is our Wickett-monkey and will tolerate almost anything he does if it means including her. She has no fear about jumping off of or climbing up onto anything, she will sit and play with a zipper or a buckle for a good 20mins. We snuggle daily and whenever she stands up after a diaper change she says “Mama” and then gives me “kisses”. For as stressful, monotonus, tiring and all things crappy that come along with parenthood my kid is still my best friend. She is my sidekick, my partner in crime, my baby, my little love and go to bed every night happy to be free and wake every morning excited to see her.
Before I got married I went GF. I had always had weird stomach problems, had tried a few different eating diets like eat right for your blood type, lactose free, etc… NOTHING really helped! One of my good friends mom was diagnosed with Celiacs and she also decided to see if she felt better not eating gluten and suggest it to me. Needless to say, I went (mostly) GF starting around 6mns before my wedding and went almost exclusively GF until I got preggers. When I became pregnant I had SO much trouble going to the bathroom I thought.. HEY, maybe if EAT bread, pizza, pasta.. it will force my system to go! NOPE!!! I just learned I COULD eat all the yummy stuff I had to avoid for so long! Soooo out when my GF lifestyle and in came GLUTEN!!!
Fast forward (or rewind.. however you want to look at it) to approx 8mns after the birth of our crazy baby. My body WASNT back to a good place (in my opinion). I wasnt eating HORRIBLY and I was running 3-4x a week.. but I still felt like CRAP, was having tons of stomach aches, bloating, gas, and gas pain… I kept telling myself I WAS going to go back to being GF… BAH! I love pizza, and the occasional cupcake, pita bread with hummus, and more! The final wake up call was a trip to my new Dr.’s office… where she told me how processed wheat now-a-days has 4x the amount of gluten that natural wheat should have… and that while NO I do not have Celiac’s I def have a wheat intolerance and to live a HAPPY life, that is not consumed with trips to the bathroom I NEEDED to go back to eating GF. So here I am about a month into it yet again… and I DO feel better, I havent had nearly as many stomach issues (I do think I have a few other tummy quirks) and I am forcing myself to eat better, think about what I eat, cook more at home and more. If anyone has any yummy recipe suggestions, I’d LOVE to hear them!
Here is to 1 month in the bag of my new lifestyle! Fingers crossed I dont fall of the wagon… I dont think my stomach would like it!
Upon the recommendation of pedi I recently had R. evaluated by early intervention for her speech… or until like the day of the evaluation, her lack there of. Regardless of people telling me that both my ped and I are crazy and that R. is TOTALLY fine, Im really glad that I took the time to do it. In the end she did not quality for EI, BUT she was below average in both speech and eating-type stuff (no surprise there!) I really liked the 2 women who came and evaluated her, R. had a good time playing with them, I picked up on some of the things they were doing with her, they asked me a ton of questions, and in the end gave me lots of good tips for helping her move forward and help her to develop speech more smoothly and possibly more quickly since she is “on the verge” of talking. I also really liked that I received a copy of all their notes and was able to see different goals within the next 6mns that should be happening for R.
I think there is a stigma put on the idea of EI which is silly! They are here to help us and our children! I kept getting questions on “why are you doing it, etc…” Ultimately at the time of my call to them she did not say mama, dada, or anything really. She always made tons of sounds, did some sign language, but no words. I know myself and I wanted to have the peace of mind knowing that I went down every avenue possible to make sure that my kid was just fine where she was currently in her development. Having this knowledge and also armed with some new techniques has already proven helpful for her! In the last 2 days she has said, ball, cracker, and dog! WOOT WOOT! We are on the road to Harvard! Hahaha!
Another question from another amazing momma reader
Ugh! It’s so frustrating having a baby, yet I want more of them!
C. is small for sure, and is getting more and more finicky, especially with my milk. And one of the formulas that we tried supplementing with made her SO constipated that she was screaming her head off when she tried to poo. It broke my heart. I just want to be sure that she is eating enough to grow, you know? I dont want her to be a fat baby. What kind of formula did you end up using with R.? I know you mentioned it in your one post but I can’t remember.
I completely know how you feel! I have a love/hate with having a baby, and being a mom! I will say this… I have learned that I am not an “infant person” I LOVE this toddler stage (even with all its new challenges) but it DOES get better… by the time she is 8-9mns and is crawling and what not you will enjoy her more… Not sure she will feel better, spit up less, or be any less picky, but she becomes more of a person around then.
In regards to food, milk, formula, etc.. R. outright refused to nurse at 5mns on the dot.. I still gave her frozen BM and formula but it really did not make a difference in regards to her discomfort or dislike of it all. We have tried EVERYTHING under the sun in ways of formula.
The ones that I found worked the “Best” were enfamil nutramigen… it is meant to be easier on their tummies… It looks as though enfamil has some new products which you might want to look into… the human milk fortifier looks interesting… here is a link to their site.http://www.enfamil.com/app/iwp/enf10/content.do?dm=enf&id=/Consumer_Home3/Infants#first
I also found that the organic earths best formula. was pretty good too.http://www.diapers.com/p/earths-best-dairy-infant-powder-232-oz-6295
To be honest, I think there are some kids that are just not meant to have formula or even BM! I know R. wasnt. In the end we ended up giving her GOATS MILK with some oatmeal in the bottle and combined with actual food it was the ONLY thing that stopped her discomfort.
I know she is only 3 months, but honestly goats milk is the closest thing to mothers milk.. more so then formula! My pedi said to just give her that along with vitamins and she would be fine and guess what, she is!
If you are comfortable with it, you might want to add a little bit OATMEAL, not rice! To her bottle it might help to add a little “weight” to her liquid and will help with spit up and also give her a few more calories… Oatmeal wont back her up like rice cereal does.
You COULD try soy based formula just to see if it works.. but sometimes it makes babies gassy which was my fear in giving it to her.
My pedi said that I NEED to give any formula switch I made a week to see if it reaaaallly is a good fit because it will take a little while for their system to get used to it. Sometimes you will know sooner, but other times not.
Here is my theory with all this formula, BM, cereal, goats milk, etc… People do all different things, they need to find what works for them and their babies… my friend was given goats milk from early on infancy and she is perfect, our parents were mostly given formula made from condensed milk and some other crap, they are fine, my husband was only given formula and he is good too, I was given BM and Im just as good as him, so you need to just do what works!
My pedi also said to give R. a little bit of luke warm chamomile tea to sooth her belly… she liked that.
Also, it is VERY normal for babies to go on nursing or bottle “strikes” so this week she might not want to nurse or not into her bottle and next week she is FINE!
Also, please do not worry about C.’s size, it is REALLY hard not to worry but you have no reason to! She is PERFECT!! Remy has always been small and that is ok she is doing great! She has done everything at the right time (not even for her “Adjusted” age, but her actual age) Also you will see that when she turns 4mns and starts to have some solids everything will change, she might have less digestive issues, she also will prob gain more weight cause you can give her foods that are more fatty, like avocado!
I hope that some of this helps you, or at least puts your mind at ease you should try the nutramigen or the earthsbest and see how those work for you.
Keep me posted!
One of my lovely readers emailed me yesterday asking my thoughts… here is her question, and my answer D. always sleeps like a dream – but about 5 days ago it seems she’s been having severe separation anxiety at bedtime. When we put her down she literally FREAKS out unless we’re standing over her crib. She’ll fall asleep and if we take a step towards her door she JUMPS up and starts screaming. This goes on for about 2 hours and it is soooo frustrating. She’s so exhausted but fights it so hard and just keeps getting up as we try to make an exit. We creep out of her room on our tip toes like weirdos trying not to make a peep. I feel like I’m losing my mind the past few days. She’s 10 months now – typically she goes to bed at 8:30 and wakes up at 7 and takes two naps during the day. (once in while 3) – typically her naps are at 1030/11a (for about an hour and a half) and then again at 330/4p for about an hour. Usually I put her to bed. But, when she does this we take turns and switch. She does it to both of us though. I’m still nursing her, so I feel like when she sees me she just wants my boob and that is not cool. Hubs will go in an try to get her down and last night he was ultimately able to get her to stay down.
Has this ever happened to you?
Is there such a thing? My current “Whatever” happens to be a diaper bag. Im kinda sick or annoyed with them. I know, I know I have many more years to go of carrying diapers, wipes, toys, change of clothes, foods, sippy cups, etc… But I cant seem to find one I really LOVE. Maybe Im putting too much thought into it, Im sure I am. But I tend to be like this. I keep searching and searching until the right “whatever” it is is found. I did this with baby wearing too! I have 4. Im crazy, I know. BUT in my defense, I actually have used all 4 of them on different occasions, the moby when she was newborn, the babyhawk mei tei until she was about 10mns old, then I wore the ergo a bunch of times while hanging out in NYC, and now I have had to use the ring sling many a time around the house because she likes to be carried all the time! But the diaper bag just hasnt been as easy for me. I always find that they are annoying.. esp now with winter coats, and she is getting heavier so it is more awkward to carry her and the bag. What are your favorite diaper bags??? Or do you have an alternative ideas instead of diaper bag that you use??
Since R. has been itty-bitty my mom has been trying to drill into me that she “should eat NON STOP!” Apparently someone she knows had 2 preemie babies a gazillion years ago and told her that “preemies need to snack ALL THE TIME” and to just feed her constantly. Needless to say, anytime I followed these “words of wisdom” in order to apease my mom my kid threw up from overeating! Read More »
So I dont really have a choice.. my little bird takes 1 nap a day. It is usually between 1.5-2.5hrs each day… I am most def NOT complaining.. But as I was cleaning up my shoes and trying to figure out how we would spend our Friday I started to think to myself… Oh man if only she took 2 naps still! Well, 2 naps means 10-11ish for a morning and then possibly naps again around 3 or 4pm. Which when you want to go out to lunch with Nana, or take a random trip to the mall or the grocery store before 8am, or even go on a day trip it is MUCH easier when they nap in the AM so you can get going shortly after they wake. Unlike my one nap taking sweetie who goes down 11/1130 and sleeps till 1 or even 2! Really it is not a TERRIBLE thing but it does kinda stinks when stores dont open till 10 and you need to feed your child shortly after they wake and then again at around 5 AND you live in a heavily congested traffic area! If you had a choice.. would you take 1 longer mid-day nap or 2 short ones (that equaled out to the same amount of time)? Some days I wish I could do 2, like today. But oh well, this is where we are at and I thank my lucky starts that AT LEAST she DOES nap… but in a dream world…
I have been trying for MONTHS to capture this face on camera. I almost never seem to capture it… unless yesterday! I finally got it! I love this scrunchy face that she makes when she thinks she is being silly (which she usually is) What your babies favorite face, have you captured it on camera? If so, please share it with me on my FB page! https://www.facebook.com/ThisLovelyHome