Constant Debate

04.25.2013

I know I’ve talked about this before but it is a still a CONSTANT debate in my mind, between M. and I, with girlfriends, and anyone who meets me and asks.  Do we try for #2.  Now that we are out of the hell of horrible infancy and have this amazingly wonderful, adorable, beautiful, little toddler I dont know if I want to do all that other crap again.  I always dreamed of a big family, one to fill the holiday tables with, and playing together in the backyard, supporting each other through life changes, maybe even being best friends someday!  I always wanted my kid to have a sibling to lean on when times were tough, or to help when she might someday (far from now) be all alone.  However my own selfishness sometimes out weights all those good points.  I know, there is NO guarantee that our children will be close or even like or tolerate each other but I guess that is a gamble parents with more then one take!  I also wonder if having another baby so that my current one is not alone is the RIGHT reason to have another.  I dont doubt for even a millisecond that I would not love another baby as much as my little bird, but the need to have another is not one that comes from thoughts or feelings like “oh I love babies” or “I love being a mom, I could have 10 more!” HELLS NO! I struggle with the mom card almost daily.  I have a fierce love for my babe and she is the light of my life, but the fact that I am her MOTHER and that role, and this job I have taken on will never ever end is sometimes daunting!  People have suggested waiting a few years… but I dont want my kids (if we have more) to be far apart in age, nor do I want to be so far out of the diapers, bottles, and baby toy stage to have to do it all over again.  I also want my body back, and want to work at it, and feel awesome about myself.. I cant imagine getting back to a place I am happy with and then 4-5 years later feeling gross and crappy all over again! ha!  So I guess the time will come sometime soon that we will have to truly make up our minds once and for all.

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Before I got married I went GF.  I had always had weird stomach problems, had tried a few different eating diets like eat right for your blood type, lactose free, etc… NOTHING really helped!  One of my good friends mom was diagnosed with Celiacs and she also decided to see if she felt better not eating gluten and suggest it to me.  Needless to say, I went (mostly) GF starting around 6mns before my wedding and went almost exclusively GF until I got preggers.  When I became pregnant I had SO much trouble going to the bathroom I thought.. HEY, maybe if EAT bread, pizza, pasta.. it will force my system to go!  NOPE!!! I just learned I COULD eat all the yummy stuff I had to avoid for so long!  Soooo out when my GF lifestyle and in came GLUTEN!!!

Fast forward (or rewind.. however you want to look at it) to approx 8mns after the birth of our crazy baby.  My body WASNT back to a good place (in my opinion).  I wasnt eating HORRIBLY and I was running 3-4x a week.. but I still felt like CRAP, was having tons of stomach aches, bloating, gas, and gas pain… I kept telling myself I WAS going to go back to being GF… BAH! I love pizza, and the occasional cupcake, pita bread with hummus, and more!  The final wake up call was a trip to my new Dr.’s office… where she told me how processed wheat now-a-days has 4x the amount of gluten that natural wheat should have… and that while NO I do not have Celiac’s I def have a wheat intolerance and to live a HAPPY life, that is not consumed with trips to the bathroom I NEEDED to go back to eating GF.  So here I am about a month into it yet again… and I DO feel better, I havent had nearly as many stomach issues (I do think I have a few other tummy quirks) and I am forcing myself to eat better, think about what I eat, cook more at home and more. If anyone has any yummy recipe suggestions, I’d LOVE to hear them!

Here is to 1 month in the bag of my new lifestyle!  Fingers crossed I dont fall of the wagon… I dont think my stomach would like it!

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Hello all! I was asked by Dole to taste test their latest product, The Parfait fruit cups.  I was a little unsure when I first received the product… not because I was afraid it would taste bad.. but it was strange that it did not need to be refrigerated asap like other yogurt type products.  BUT I was committed to doing the post and making sure to give a true, honest review… I stuck the 3 different flavors, Pineapple and creme, apples and creme, and peaches and creme into the fridge to let them get cold and tried one each over the next 3 days.


 

Lucky for me (and DOLE haha) they were all pretty darn good!  I even let little miss R. baby try them.. and she asked for more… which if you know my child is NOT the norm!  It is a nice combo of real fruit with the smooth layer of deliciously light-tasting creme.  My favorite, which I was not surprised about was the peaches and creme… it also was the one that made the most sense combo wise for me.. but yah for being low fat, cholesterol free and very low in sodium I’d buy them again!  Here are some other details on the product that are good to know.   They contain all natural fruit and are rich in Vitamin C,  are available in the canned fruit section at select grocery retailers and online, and have a suggested retail price is $2.79/per package of four.   You can check out all the details HERE on the DOLE Fruit Parfaits website or also at dole.com 

Here is also a link to DOLE FB page or twitter in cause you are a fan!  But really, for a product you can keep in your cabinet and pop in the fridge whenever you are low on something…or if you are going out for the day but want a snack in your diaper bag for your or your little one.. or just to stick in your purse it is good, healthy, and better then the cheetos you got from the vending machine! For $2.79 it cant hurt to try them out!

Disclaimer: I am part of the Mom It Forward blogger network. Mom It Forward and DOLE partnered in support of this campaign. DOLE compensated me for participation in this campaign. However, all thoughts and opinions are my own. 

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Being Evaluated

04.17.2013

Upon the recommendation of pedi I recently had R. evaluated by early intervention for her speech… or until like the day of the evaluation, her lack there of.  Regardless of people telling me that both my ped and I are crazy and that R. is TOTALLY fine, Im really glad that I took the time to do it. In the end she did not quality for EI, BUT she was below average in both speech and eating-type stuff (no surprise there!)  I really liked the 2 women who came and evaluated her, R. had a good time playing with them, I picked up on some of the things they were doing with her, they asked me a ton of questions, and in the end gave me lots of good tips for helping her move forward and help her to develop speech more smoothly and possibly more quickly since she is “on the verge” of talking.  I also really liked that I received a copy of all their notes and was able to see different goals within the next 6mns that should be happening for R.

I think there is a stigma put on the idea of EI which is silly!  They are here to help us and our children! I kept getting questions on “why are you doing it, etc…” Ultimately at the time of my call to them she did not say mama, dada, or anything really.  She always made tons of sounds, did some sign language, but no words.  I know myself and I wanted to have the peace of mind knowing that I went down every avenue possible to make sure that my kid was just fine where she was currently in her development.  Having this knowledge and also armed with some new techniques has already proven helpful for her!  In the last 2 days she has said, ball, cracker, and dog! WOOT WOOT!  We are on the road to Harvard! Hahaha!

 

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Yesterday, April 10th my little bird turned 17mns.  (It has been almost a month since I last wrote, sorry folks, nothing was inspiring me enough to write, but Im feeling it a bit more) Anyways… My sweet little drama queen goof ball is really turning into something quite lovely.  Recently you have become a little love ball. Giving me hugs and kisses, and whines (not my favorite thing) for me to hold her and be with you.   Read More »

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Another question from another amazing momma reader :)

Ugh! It’s so frustrating having a baby, yet I want more of them!

C. is small for sure, and is getting more and more finicky, especially with my milk. And one of the formulas that we tried supplementing with made her SO constipated that she was screaming her head off when she tried to poo. It broke my heart. I just want to be sure that she is eating enough to grow, you know? I dont want her to be a fat baby. What kind of formula did you end up using with R.? I know you mentioned it in your one post but I can’t remember.

heya!

I completely know how you feel! I have a love/hate with having a baby, and being a mom! I will say this… I have learned that I am not an “infant person” I LOVE this toddler stage (even with all its new challenges) but it DOES get better… by the time she is 8-9mns and is crawling and what not you will enjoy her more… Not sure she will feel better, spit up less, or be any less picky, but she becomes more of a person around then.

In regards to food, milk, formula, etc.. R.  outright refused to nurse at 5mns on the dot.. I still gave her frozen BM and formula but it really did not make a difference in regards to her discomfort or dislike of it all. We have tried EVERYTHING under the sun in ways of formula.

The ones that I found worked the “Best” were enfamil nutramigen… it is meant to be easier on their tummies… It looks as though enfamil has some new products which you might want to look into… the human milk fortifier looks interesting… here is a link to their site.http://www.enfamil.com/app/iwp/enf10/content.do?dm=enf&id=/Consumer_Home3/Infants#first

I also found that the organic earths best formula. was pretty good too.http://www.diapers.com/p/earths-best-dairy-infant-powder-232-oz-6295

To be honest, I think there are some kids that are just not meant to have formula or even BM! I know R. wasnt. In the end we ended up giving her GOATS MILK with some oatmeal in the bottle and combined with actual food it was the ONLY thing that stopped her discomfort.

I know she is only 3 months, but honestly goats milk is the closest thing to mothers milk.. more so then formula! My pedi said to just give her that along with vitamins and she would be fine and guess what, she is!

If you are comfortable with it, you might want to add a little bit OATMEAL, not rice! To her bottle it might help to add a little “weight” to her liquid and will help with spit up and also give her a few more calories… Oatmeal wont back her up like rice cereal does.

You COULD try soy based formula just to see if it works.. but sometimes it makes babies gassy which was my fear in giving it to her.

My pedi said that I NEED to give any formula switch I made a week to see if it reaaaallly is a good fit because it will take a little while for their system to get used to it. Sometimes you will know sooner, but other times not.

Here is my theory with all this formula, BM, cereal, goats milk, etc… People do all different things, they need to find what works for them and their babies… my friend was given goats milk from early on infancy and she is perfect, our parents were mostly given formula made from condensed milk and some other crap, they are fine, my husband was only given formula and he is good too, I was given BM and Im just as good as him, so you need to just do what works!

My pedi also said to give R. a little bit of luke warm chamomile tea to sooth her belly… she liked that.

Also, it is VERY normal for babies to go on nursing or bottle “strikes” so this week she might not want to nurse or not into her bottle and next week she is FINE!

Also, please do not worry about C.’s size, it is REALLY hard not to worry but you have no reason to! She is PERFECT!! Remy has always been small and that is ok she is doing great!  She has done everything at the right time (not even for her “Adjusted” age, but her actual age) Also you will see that when she turns 4mns and starts to have some solids everything will change, she might have less digestive issues, she also will prob gain more weight cause you can give her foods that are more fatty, like avocado!

I hope that some of this helps you, or at least puts your mind at ease you should try the nutramigen or the earthsbest and see how those work for you.

Keep me posted!

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One of my lovely readers emailed me yesterday asking my thoughts… here is her question, and my answer :)  D. always sleeps like a dream – but about 5 days ago it seems she’s been having severe separation anxiety at bedtime. When we put her down she literally FREAKS out unless we’re standing over her crib.  She’ll fall asleep and if we take a step towards her door she JUMPS up and starts screaming.  This goes on for about 2 hours and it is soooo frustrating.  She’s so exhausted but fights it so hard and just keeps getting up as we try to make an exit.  We creep out of her room on our tip toes like weirdos trying not to make a peep.  I feel like I’m losing my mind the past few days.  She’s 10 months now – typically she goes to bed at 8:30 and wakes up at 7 and takes two naps during the day. (once in while 3) – typically her naps are at 1030/11a (for about an hour and a half) and then again at 330/4p for about an hour.  Usually I put her to bed. But, when she does this we take turns and switch. She does it to both of us though.  I’m still nursing her, so I feel like when she sees me she just wants my boob and that is not cool.  Hubs will go in an try to get her down and last night he was ultimately able to get her to stay down.

Has this ever happened to you?

Yes, it has happened!  It was HORRIBLE! We ended up having to change our bedtime routine a bit since she knew it was coming and would stress out, so we were not able to read her books, or anything like that. it was too much prep beforehand , here is what we now do, and while it seems structured, it is very low key…  R had a FREAK OUT at around 8mns when we did our regular routine.  Sooo we usually give her a bath directly after dinner, sometimes we dont even clean her hands off, we just go right into the tub.  THEN, we go into her room, and she has “naked time”  where we put her oil on (we dont use lotion) and let her play in her room all naked and whatnot, that is usually 10-15mins.. THEN we put her in her PJ’s and night time diaper.  From there we usually play for another 15mins or so and then we give her a night time bottle and we also watch a bit of TV like the the wiggles or mickey mouse.  (our kid doesnt have an off button, so this usually relaxes her and gets her to calm down)  After the bottle is done, brush teeth, give her any medicine if she is sick, and then we lay her down, put on her sound machine/night light, give her her blankie, out on her musical glow worm, (she also has a small 2oz bottle of water that we give her in the crib ~ but this is ending soon)  and then we say love you, shut the door all the way, and go!  ALSO she only used to freak out for ME, and not to M., so I would have to have him put her to bed whenever possible.   I would help M. with the stuff beforehand, but he would have to put her in the crib and say goodnight and I would leave the room before he did it.
Another thing I noticed was that when R wasnt very tired or was OVER tired she would get more anxiety about going to sleep.  You might need to bump up her naps a little bit, or feed her a little earlier and put her down a tad earlier… even by just 15mins!  I would suggest that you dont let her have a 3rd nap whenever possible she most likely only needs 2.  Also, the 1 and only paragraph in a book I ever read gave this suggestion… lay the baby down 20-30mins before you expect them to fall asleep.. this gets them used to self sooth and also downtime.  so maybe try for a week to lay her down at 10 for the 1st nap and she will hopefully sleep by 1030-12.  then again lay her down at 3pm and hopefully sleep till only 4-430.  THEN I would say try doing 8pm rather then 830.  Lay her down at 8pm and see what happens.
Also, Im not sure if you are or are not against this but you might need to just let her figure it out on her own… one thing that helped also for us was putting a book in her crib, she knows it is there and “reads” it when she wakes up.  We make a big deal about giving her the blankie at nap and bedtime, so it excites but also gives her the reassurance she needs and she snuggles it, etc…
I have heard that CIO can last as long as 2 HRS!  But then it stops pretty quickly.  You should have Daddy go in and pat her on the back, or lay her back down, but not pick her up. OR you could talk to her at the doorway and tell her it is ok but dont go in.  But he has to be the one to do it when he can since she associates you as food/comfort.
But maybe try to switch up the routine first and see if that help cause it might be stressing her out, PLUS try putting her down at 8pm rather then 830… also you might just have to let her cry longer :(  they learn bad habits very easily, but forget them quickly too if we stick with it.
Good Luck and keep us all posted!!!
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Hey there my little bird. Yesterday you turned 16mns old and a little firecracker you most certainly are! At 15.5mns you weighted 19lbs 8oz and were 29.5in tall. Your sweet little head is starting to grow some cute little blonde locks.. With some cutie curls in the back.. I can’t wait to see you with actual hair that I can pull into a pony! You walk, run, climb, roll, flop, all over the place and it is the most fun yet to be with you as you are truly a little person now :) . We are still waiting for you to talk.  You currently say “HI”, sometimes grace us with a mama and dada.. And your favorite, DA! For dog. You do communicate with sign language so we are all not at a total loss for your needs! You have a love for all things doggies, your blankies, and a pair of ugly ass Payless shoes you always like to wear!

Currently you do a lot of whining at me to hold you and you have become more snugly and enjoy watching the wiggles curious george, and Mickey Mouse with us. We still struggle with having you let go of the bottle and sometimes even at night.. but overall you are becoming a joy to be around and continue to be the light of our lives.

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Is there such a thing?  My current “Whatever” happens to be a diaper bag. Im kinda sick or annoyed with them.  I know, I know I have many more years to go of carrying diapers, wipes, toys, change of clothes, foods, sippy cups, etc… But I cant seem to find one I really LOVE.  Maybe Im putting too much thought into it, Im sure I am.  But I tend to be like this.  I keep searching and searching until the right “whatever” it is is found.  I did this with baby wearing too!  I have 4.  Im crazy, I know.  BUT in my defense, I actually have used all 4 of them on different occasions, the moby when she was newborn, the babyhawk mei tei until she was about 10mns old, then I wore the ergo  a bunch of times while hanging out  in NYC, and now I have had to use the ring sling many a time around the house because she likes to be carried all the time!  But the diaper bag just hasnt been as easy for me.  I always find that they are annoying.. esp now with winter coats, and she is getting heavier so it is more awkward to carry her and the bag.  What are your favorite diaper bags???   Or do you have an alternative ideas instead of diaper bag that you use??

Getting into my diaper bag :)

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Snack Attack!

03.3.2013

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Since R. has been itty-bitty my mom has been trying to drill into me that she “should eat NON STOP!”  Apparently someone she knows had 2 preemie babies a gazillion years ago and told her that “preemies need to snack ALL THE TIME” and to just feed her constantly.  Needless to say, anytime I followed these “words of wisdom”  in order to apease my mom my kid threw up from overeating!   Read More »

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